True or false: Millennials will do almost anything to try to get away from real responsibilities.

Just like its name, The Peter-Pan Syndrome, taken from the great tale of Peter-Pan who refuses to grow up and wants to forever live in the Neverland with the lost boys. It is a pop-psychology term to symbolize the behavior of when a person refuses to take responsibility as an adult and want to forever indulge in a carefree life. Sound familiar? I must admit that you and I probably suffer from this syndrome.

“I am Peter Pan in my heart” – Michael Jackson

The one famous example would be Michael Jackson, who built a Neverland on his own.  A preschool teacher who allegedly visited his Neverland claims it to smells like cinnamon rolls, vanilla, and candy and sounds like children laughing. The millennials generation, probably in an entry-level position somewhere will eventually represent most of the workforce by 2030 and will probably force to leave its Neverland soon. I can assure you, it will not smell like candies and vanilla.

Unknowingly or not, we would probably keep a blind eye to real responsibilities like paying your electricity bill, paying your rent, and to do community service. I must admit, I don’t even know that I am supposed to pay tax to my car until three months ago when I realized that the license has expired. Hence, I don’t even know how insurance really works until I am getting hospitalized. I realized that I was being ignorant all this time to these adult necessities in my life.

Even though studying abroad and doing university in another town did contribute to my independence in the form of that I will not die of hunger and I learn how to properly use a rice cooker and a stove, I realized that being an adult means taking on real responsibilities. Taking on real responsibilities means you get to realize nobody is going to tell you what is right and wrong anymore. You should be able to make a decision that you eventually you can live with. When you realized that it is a wrong decision, there will be no one to blame but yourself.

Even if we want it or not, we have to become an adult at one point or another, more often than not, before we are ready.

Taking a career leap, deciding what to wear, or even plan a trip by yourself. Until now, I am still scared of taking the responsibility of my choices and even still doubt myself most of the time. The road to “adulting” is a long way and you might never be good at it. Even for the people we think are adults might not have it all figured out yet.

When I say being an adult, I do not mean that you will be wearing suits all the time and be collected at every moment in life. As a millennial, I think there is a positive side of keeping your “inner” Peter-Pan alive and well. It is the craving for adventures, the excitement of trying something new in life and to not be afraid of the dark. Peter-Pan, being a child, bravely goes head to head with Captain Hook and lead a group of lost boys. Even as we grow up, we should be able to learn to live a life full of adventures and wherever our life takes us, we will be fine.

“To live will be an awfully big adventure.” – Peter Pan

Author

In between weekend and overcaffeinated days, Najwa writes as a co-contributor of Hello Millennials as a form of sharing platform where she hopes to share her two cents on the brighter side of being a millennial on this day and age. As a proud alumna of The University of Edinburgh and Institut Teknologi Bandung, she has taken interest in international business, emerging markets and technology.

1 Comment

  1. wow. I’m so sorry you haven’t grown up and that you don’t want to. Being a grown up is fun, and being a child is idiotic. Case and point, you write, “Unknowingly or not, we would probably keep a blind eye to real responsibilities like paying your electricity bill, paying your rent, and to do community service.”
    hmm No. I like my lights on when I come home, I like knowing that there is a roof over my head, because sleeping in your car is awful ,especially when someone tries to break into your car while you’re sleeping in it. Sure, I do community service, I was raised to do community service, but it’s not all flying to the Galapagos to watch sea turtles hatching, and standing idly spooning slop into a bowl for 20 minutes. REAL community engagement is knowing how your insurance works and voting for the right politicians to change it , real community service is showing up at your town halls to voice your concern on local gov’t spending. Assisting that single mother with child care. Not buying cheap clothes and throwing them away instead of laundering them or storing them for next year. And the same goes for cheap furniture, and etc. etc. Let’s think about more people than just ourselves. Shall I continue?
    “I must admit, I don’t even know that I am supposed to pay tax to my car until three months ago when I realized that the license has expired. Hence, I don’t even know how insurance really works until I am getting hospitalized. I realized that I was being ignorant all this time to these adult necessities in my life.” WOW. So, actually, you could die of starvation because you haven’t checked in to how the world around you works.

    Please… stop this ridiculousness. I am 33. I have some really tough goes at becoming an adult. I was a victim of the economy crash and had to find a new way to support myself. I had to think hard and hustle, and even, god forbid! not do community service because my 3rd job got in the way of my free time.

    I’m not telling millennials to adopt the lifestyles of our parents – because that reality is no longer – but they’re the ones supporting you while you blow half your pay check to loll around in a tub of sprinkles at the ice cream museum because it looks good on your instagram.

    How does any of that make the world a better place for ourselves in the recent and distant futures and the next generations?

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